Let me tell y’all about the Consequence Jar. It’s a tool to help parents like us implement effective consequences for our little ones. And let me tell you, it’s been a godsend for me and my family.
Strategy #1: Pick a Jar and Decorate It
The first thing you need to do is find a jar that you and your child can decorate together. This will make the jar feel more personal and give your child a sense of ownership over it. You can use stickers, paint, or anything else you have on hand to make it your own.
Strategy #2: Establish Clear Rules and Consequences
Before you start using the Consequence Jar, it’s important to establish clear rules and consequences with your child. Sit down together and discuss what behaviors will result in consequences and what those consequences will be.
Strategy #3: Be Consistent
Consistency is key when it comes to using the Consequence Jar. Make sure you follow through with the consequences every time your child breaks a rule. This will help establish the jar as a reliable tool for behavior management.
Strategy #4: Use Positive Reinforcement
While consequences are important, it’s also important to use positive reinforcement when your child exhibits good behavior. Consider adding a separate jar for positive tokens and rewards, and use them to praise your child for their good behavior.
Strategy #5: Make the Consequence Actionable
The consequence you choose for each behavior should be actionable and related to the behavior itself. For example, if your child breaks a toy, the consequence might be that they need to fix it or buy a replacement with their own money.
Strategy #6: Be Willing to Adjust
Finally, be willing to adjust the consequences if they’re not working. Every child is different, and what works for one may not work for another. Don’t be afraid to experiment and make changes as needed.
The Consequence Jar has been a real game changer for my family. It’s helped us establish clear rules and consequences, and has made behavior management so much easier. Give it a try and see how it works for you!
